So now that the . has started.
I am officially asexual AND irritated by anyone who brings up the topic (especially after being told - I am cramping dude ...so not in the mood to even think 'penile-y' wait, isn't penile a word used to describe a correctional facility?) BUT I DIGRESS

On the phone tonight with an old friend of mine ...and this dude was informed of my 'condition' but proceeded to try to get a straight answer about why he can't get it again ...just once!

To be honest folks - it has been so long since I had this dude ...I don't even remember the experience. I remember his reaction afterwards (awe) but not mine ....I am completely befuddled.

Knowing me as I do, I can only assume this was either a pestering fugg (his constant begging wore me down), a tie me over fugg (batteries in the B.O.B. died and CB wasn't available), a curiosity fugg (new d*ck is always good to try), or a deadline fugg (. was due to start and feeling especially horned out) ...it had to be a situation .... he is NOT a person I've fantasized about being with ....he's just kewl people ...

I've told him several times that he ain't getting it again ...because:

1) I'm looking for a relationship (hey, this ALWAYS scares them)
2) I'm IN a relationship (what - technically I'm not but HE doesn't know that)
3) I'm just not interested in him that way anymore (bad move - "why I wasn't good/big/thick/long/hard/ etc; for you?")
4) I just don't remember the experience (stupid response - "that's alright - I'll work harder on 'it' this time)

Any advice folks ...how do I stop avoiding his calls, keep him as a guy friend with whom I can consult on all things male but make it clear beyond a shadow that my puss is something he'll never have again?